There have been many conversations lately swirling around where people have been complaining about the ring their fiance gave them. It is not the "traditional" ring they expected. This frustrates me that people are disappointed in a symbol of love. Even "The Simpsons" broached the subject when Marge and Homer got engaged with an onion ring. No matter what your ring may be, gold, silver, platinum, diamond, ruby or sapphire it is meant to be a representation of your love and commitment to each other.
Enough about the history and people's proclivities, let's get down to what I have learned. My husband knows my style very well and would have had no problem picking out what would be the perfect ring without help.
However, he and our friend who is a jeweler and whose store we frequent did a little detective work. We wandered in one day to visit the owner and while I was there he showed me his "new" line of rings. He pointed out his favorite to me and asked me which was my favorite. The owner even asked me if there was somethings I would change about certain rings. It seemed a little odd at the time but I went with the flow. Long story short on the fateful night of our engagement my husband presented me with the ring that I liked best.
The moral of the story is if someone, anyone asks you what you think of certain styles of rings or a particular ring you must be completely honest. You never know who might be in on helping pick your ring. Either way remember it is a symbol of your love and future together.
As soon as you have said yes and put the ring on make sure it fits perfect. If it is super loose get it adjusted as soon as possible, you don't want to lose it. If it is slightly loose, keep it that way. When you stack rings on top of each other they tend to fit tighter.
Call your home owners or renters insurance right away. You fiancé doesn't have to tell you how much was spent on the ring but it definitely needs to be revealed to your insurance agent. This will protect you in case of loss or theft. Not the most exciting part of being engaged but very, very important.
Lastly, no matter how weird it feels to give someone your hand when they ask to see the ring do not take it off and hand it to the person wishing to see it. At a dinner party once a guest asked to see my ring. Since we were sitting across the table from each other I handed it to her. She proceeded to wear it for a half hour. It was probably one of the most uncomfortable half hours of my life.
I know that was a lot of information for one post, but I believe it can be helpful in many different ways. Engagement and everything that goes with it can feel like walking a tight rope at times, but it is absolutely worth it.
Merry & Married Meg
