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Thursday, February 19, 2015

Rings are tricky things

Rings or a version of them can be linked back to before the Egyptians.  Each time a ring is presented no matter its position in history it has meant a binding agreement between two individuals.  The diamond ring is a relatively new concept. In 1477 Archduke Maximilian of Austria proposed to Mary of Burgundy using a ring set with diamonds in the shape of an M.  DeBeers was the company that made the idea of a diamond the gold standard, no pun intended.

There have been many conversations lately swirling around where people have been complaining about the ring their fiance gave them.  It is not the "traditional" ring they expected. This frustrates me that people are disappointed in a symbol of love.  Even "The Simpsons" broached the subject when Marge and Homer got engaged with an onion ring.  No matter what your ring may be, gold, silver, platinum, diamond, ruby or sapphire it is meant to be a representation of your love and commitment to each other.

Enough about the history and people's proclivities, let's get down to what I have learned.  My husband knows my style very well and would have had no problem picking out what would be the perfect ring without help.  

However, he and our friend who is a jeweler and whose store we frequent did a little detective work.  We wandered in one day to visit the owner and while I was there he showed me his "new" line of rings.  He pointed out his favorite to me and asked me which was my favorite.  The owner even asked me if there was somethings I would change about certain rings.  It seemed a little odd at the time but I went with the flow.  Long story short on the fateful night of our engagement my husband presented me with the ring that I liked best.  

The moral of the story is if someone, anyone asks you what you think of certain styles of rings or a particular ring you must be completely honest.  You never know who might be in on helping pick your ring.  Either way remember it is a symbol of your love and future together.

As soon as you have said yes and put the ring on make sure it fits perfect.  If it is super loose get it adjusted as soon as possible, you don't want to lose it.  If it is slightly loose, keep it that way.  When you stack rings on top of each other they tend to fit tighter.  

Call your home owners or renters insurance right away.  You fiancĂ© doesn't have to tell you how much was spent on the ring but it definitely needs to be revealed to your  insurance agent.  This will protect you in case of loss or theft.  Not the most exciting part of being engaged but very, very important.

Lastly, no matter how weird it feels to give someone your hand when they ask to see the ring do not take it off and hand it to the person wishing to see it.  At a dinner party once a guest asked to see my ring.  Since we were sitting across the table from each other I handed it to her.  She proceeded to wear it for a half hour.  It was probably one of the most uncomfortable half hours of my life.  

I know that was a lot of information for one post, but I believe it can be helpful in many different ways.  Engagement and everything that goes with it can feel like walking a tight rope at times, but it is absolutely worth it.

Merry & Married Meg

Tuesday, February 10, 2015

You're Engaged . . . Now What?

Getting engaged is a roller coaster of emotions.  There is the feeling of surprise, the giddiness of saying yes, and then the adrenaline that follows.  You are ecstatic and want to tell the world,  but WAIT!

Surprised, yes!
I was totally underdressed for the fancy restaurant but,
hey I had no idea what was going to happen.
I thought the staff was just super friendly.
My Sutro Tower t-shirt will forever remind me of that night.

The moment you say yes you will want to shout it from the rooftops, but are you ready for the barrage of questions that will follow?  Here are the most asked questions I ran into:

  • How did he ask?
  • Did you know he was going to ask?
  • What does the ring look like?
  • Do you know what kind of dress you want?
  • When is the wedding?
Yes, you read that last one correctly.  WHEN IS THE WEDDING?  Hello, I just got engaged how am I supposed to know!

Believe it of not that was the most asked question I encountered.  There really is no way to answer that.  Not many people out there have a venue lined up before the question is popped, so not many people can answer that ridiculousness. 

I think people ask these kinds of questions because after you say congratulations it is hard to keep the conversation going in that same vain.  Your friends and family are happy for you, but they are at a loss for words.  When things start to head in the manner of an interrogation, explain that you are glad that you got to share the news with them and you have other people that you would like to tell so you will call back again soon when more of the details are settled.  By explaining that you will check back you give yourself and the person you are sharing with have an out.

The greatest advice I can give for the newly engaged is take at least a couple hours to enjoy yourselves and the love that you share.  Appreciate your relationship and revel in each other's company before you pick up that phone.

Make sure you are ready to share and answer many, many questions before you open the flood gates.  Not only will questions follow but so will opinions and advice.  Some things people tell you will be helpful and others will not, so take everyone's advice and use what YOU think will help you.  

Merry & Married Meg

Thursday, January 29, 2015

Just Married

So the world's most inconsistent blogger is back again.  My love of San Francisco and my now husband have kept me quite occupied since the last time I wrote.  I think it might be just about time to start the blog up again.  Why you might ask?

Well, planning a wedding is stressful and I learned a lot along the way.  When I got engaged my mind started to spiral and I felt as if there wasn't much help out there.  There are tons of websites trying to sell you the things you "need" for you wedding but not much advice.  So I am going to start the blog that I wish was out there a year and a half ago.  I am hoping to write in chronological order, but if I forget something important I will add it in when I remember.

Along the way you I will introduce you to sites, my vendors, and even private looks at bits and pieces of my wedding.  Whether you are engaged, married or single I am sure there will be something for everyone after all a wedding is a giant party.


Married & Merry Meg

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Miss R's Amazing Adventures

I know I have not written much lately.  That is because things will be changing very soon.  This blogger is moving from one coast to the other.

I am currently working on a blog for my students called Miss R's Amazing Adventures.  It will chronicle everything that a move of that magnitude entails.  There are even fish at the top of the page that kids can feed by clicking in the pond.

I will post here more of an adult version of what it great in the states that I visit.  Stay tuned for more posts.

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Team Sparkle Pony

This is the second time that Team Sparkle Pony will be walking in the San Francisco AIDS walk.  Since our fundraising has begun we have been in the top 25 and were asked to write a biography of the team.  Below is what we submitted.  If the story touches you, please donate at the link here.

Team Sparkle Pony is small but powerful.  It is compromised of three friends: Jordan, Megan and Mike.  The team formed the same week that we all became mutual friends.

Last April, on my annual spring break trip to San Francisco from New Jersey the idea to participate in the San Francisco AIDS walk came to fruition.  Jordan and I were meeting for coffee when we commented on the AIDS walk banners flying overhead. 
One of us said, “We should do that this year.” The other responded, “Yeah, we should.”  Of course over coffee we started thinking of names and fundraising ideas.  With us, when the ball gets rolling there is no stopping it!

We mentioned the idea to our new friend Mike and he jumped right in.  We set the lofty goal of raising $1,000 a piece and came within $25 of our team goal.  The money was raised in many different ways.

Each of us e-mailed every one we knew and sent reminders when ever we could.  We also used facebook to bombard the internet with our support requests.  Personal thanks were e-mailed and hand written for every donation made.  Our perseverance paid off, we started to see the temperature go up on all of our thermometers.  Friends, friends of friends, students and their families, and people we did not even know began to donate.  Every day this team of three got stronger and sparklier.

For our final push to reach our goal we hosted a fundraising event with a raffle of locally donated gift certificates.  We had the support of the event’s location, the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence and a radio station.  Other walkers came out to help us at our fundraiser even though they were fundraising on their own.  We even sold our team t-shirts off our backs. 

This year we are going to reach that goal of $3,000 or more.  Even though our team is located on two coasts, we won’t give up.  We don’t raise money for anyone in particular, but for all of mankind.  We each know someone who has been battling this disease and want them to have all the support that we can give. 

Team Sparkle Pony is stronger and sparklier than ever.  A great team name and t-shirt can get you far but amazing teammates get you ever further.

Team Captain of Sparkle Pony

Sunday, April 22, 2012

Born Wicked

Someone I went to college with published a book!  I know I couldn't believe it either, so of course I needed to read it and review it.

Born Wicked: The Cahill Witch Chronicles (Book 1), by Jessica Spotswood, follows the lives of three sisters in a small town at the turn of the century.  These are not ordinary sisters, they are witches who were taught little of the craft before their mother passed away.  They need to hide their gifts from the world for fear of persecution.  With only six months before a major life decision must be made the eldest sister finds out information that will change their lives forever.

The book takes a while to get moving. Until about 2/3 in I was not sure if I was going to enjoy it.  After that point I wanted to know what happens next.  Unfortunately, the book is one of three and it ends abruptly.  If you hold on until the end I am sure you will be looking for the next one just like me.

The thing that drove me crazy was the world the story is set in.  Some of the events chronologically do not make sense.  It resembles our turn of the century New England so closely that I did not realize it an alternate world until I checked the library of congresses description on the front cover.

If you like witches and romance give this book a try.  Check out Jessica's website here.

Thursday, March 29, 2012

Blend Creations

I am giggling like a little kid because I just received my custom necklace from Blend Creations.
It is awesome and easy.  You print out the custom worksheet from the website and draw within the lines.  Then scan it and send it to the company.  In three days I had my brother's childhood drawing on a necklace.

So of course being a teacher I think, "Great Mother's Day gift!"  It is too expensive for me to order for each of the children in my class.  We are on the tissue paper flower budget in most schools, but Dads could totally get their tot to draw within the lines.  You also sign the back.  What a perfect momento. 

They also have great and unusual items like bottle opener necklaces.  Which is more ingenious then flip-flop bottle openers, since, well you walk on them.  Gross! Blend Creations also offers flowers suspended in resin and many other items.  There are more traditional items as well, but those are less my style.

There is a custom portion to almost any piece of artwork on this site.  You can really make your mark on any piece.  

Please give Blend Creations a try and you will not be disappointed.